Well..secrets out!
Hubby did have an affair..we were married twenty out of our 45 years..High school reunion..apparently he never got to "Try out" the other love of his life..It was christmas time and I knew he didn't celebrate christmas..but he was doing a lot of "Shopping"..Turns out they had arranged a "Get together" and kept getting together..
Well I found out where she lived..went over there..found his truck..pulled it in the middle of the street..and left..
By this time he knew I knew so he knew who moved the truck..
that lasted about 2 months and she dumped him..he was still living at home..it seems she wanted to make another (Married) guy jealous..
So I took him back..forgave but never forgot!..
It got easier after a while..he never strayed again.
I am glad I forgave him..and I figured our marriage was better for it. Showed something was wrong and we worked to fix it. Plus he was curious because he never got to "Bump" her.. Since we married so young!..And her guardian was so strict...
If he had kept it up...I probably would have disolved the marriage..the pain would have been too great..
But I figured everyone deserves at least one chance..And there was a lot at stake..
Besides SHE made him do it!.. Yeah right!
But we went on and had 25 more great years after that..so I made the right decision..
Snoozy..
Know how I found out? His best friend and his wife told me...
edited to add...When hubby started going back to the KH..he confessed to the Elders..they had no meeting..just said since it was so long ago it was OK..